I had this debate with my gf who believes the song is not appropriate today. I think we have to be really careful about censoring creative works. And especially in the PC era (and I dont mean that in a bad way because I dont rail against common decency/respect as an attack of the PC police). But, this happened with Money For Nothing a few years ago because ONE person complained and didnt understand the point of the offending word in the song.
Im 99.9% on the side of women (or more accurately 100% on the side of women in 99.9% of things). But many historians have said the song is not about coercion, but about the fact the woman wants to spend the night but is afraid of judgement. The perspective as judged by "the time" isnt that it was okay for men to coerce women, its that women had to play a role lest they be judged or "**** shamed".
On its face, its playful. I would wager most adults have experienced playful moments of banter in romantic situations (both ways, not just man towards woman).
If you read the lyrics its pretty clear what its about. But people pop out lines out of context.
So, out of contest the offending lines are:
"Say what's in this drink?" - but that follows her asking for another drink. The male replies that she should put on a record while he pours. The clear indication is not that he's slipping her a date rape drug but that he made her an extra strong drink.
Next offending line:
"I ought to say no, no, no". Her repeating the word "no" is not for emphasis. Its to keep the melody of the song. It follows her lamenting that she wished she could "break this spell". In other words, she wants to stay, she's enamored. She wishes she didnt want to. The line is immediately followed by "At least I can say that I tried". This isnt an example of a victim shrugging off an attack. Its her going through in her mind how she'll respond to people shaming her the next day.
She repeats "no" in the next offending line:
"The answer is no". This follows "I really must go." The male's response to both is "Baby, it's cold outside." Almost as if the writer purposely has a mundane, generic male statement that she is responding to. Why? Because she's not responding to him. She's talking to herself. She's trying to convince herself she should go.
Have any of us been in that position? Heck yes.
She immediately follows that line by complimenting the man. She is now back to addressing him (rather then internalizing). She tells him his "welcome has been so nice and warm". The man's response to this is to say he's lucky she dropped in (which tells us that she initially went to his home). It also tells us he's complimenting her, not forcing her to stay. His next line is "Look out the window at this dawn". This implied they've already spent most of the night together.
That's a key line because it gives us context to the song. Its not a two minute conversation. It's a narrative of the evening. Its possible this narrative tells us her internalizing was her final thought process on whether to stay or not, clearly her choice. And the next lines referring to it being nice and warm and look at this dawn could be the AFTER of their coupling.
The next lines are her being worried about what her family will think about her coming home so late (or the next day). She refers to her sister being suspicious, her brother waiting at the door and her Aunt having a "vicious mind". This is all about other people's reactions to her decision to spend the night.
It could be read, again, as AFTER they've spent the night together and now she's laying there thinking about the consequences...the shaming and judgement.
The male's response is to refer to her lips as "delicious" (this is 1) a compliment 2) confirming they have been intimate 3) a flirtation). She immediately responds by making another excuse to STAY (he never asked her to at this point...). She says a half a cigarette more. Again, giving herself an excuse to stay.
She then goes back to saying she had to get home. If we accept the narrative that they have spent the night together, his next lines make sense "But baby, you'd freeze out there", "Its up to your knees out there". The weather is now worse than it was when she came over.
She asks him to lend her a coat, implying again that the weather is now much worse than when she went to his home (and confirming some time has passed).
She gives him a compliment that suggests she is getting ready to leave "you've really been grand". Her opinion of him is he's been great, its was a great night.
Her next lines wrap up the narrative:
"But dont you see, there's bound to be talk tomorrow, at least it will be implied". That tells us this whole routine is about her wanting to stay but fearing judgement and that she DID stay and is now fearful of that judgement.
We could read it further as expressing the dichotomy between men and women where he simply has no understanding of how she will be judged because he's a man and she's a woman. That's the victimization in this song.
Her last line is "I really cant stay" and he replies "get over that old out". She's reiterating that she cant stay because of the judgement and he's saying it doesnt matter, the judgement doesnt matter, he doesnt care what people think.
I cant believe I just analyzed that song haha